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Do you suspect that your husband could be having an Internet fling? Are you suddenly seeing more and more signs of an online affair from your husband?

Did you know that over 30% of all divorcing couples in the USA have ‘online cheating’ cited as one of the reasons for ending their marriage?

That means that at LEAST 1/3 of all marriages will run into the tragic problem of virtual cheating, and epidemic that is quickly destroying values in the American marriage.

So if you suspect your husband is committing online infidelity, the time to act is right now. And since you’re already here, reading this article, I’d say you’re doing a pretty good job so far!

Congratulations!

But enough small talk and introduction, let’s get down to business. You want to know the truth about your husband’s internet activity, and I’m here to help you find out.

Online Chatting – The Most Common Sign of an Online Affair?

It may not be the most common, but it’s probably the most widely known. I mean think about it, what are you asking yourself when you’re wondering what your husband is doing online? You’re asking…

“I wonder who he’s talking to?” and “I wonder why he’s talking to them?”

As you continue reading this article, I’d like to talk specifically to you about online chatting.

Why?

Because I feel like this is one of the most commonly misconstrued signs of an online affair out there… Lots of people think automatically that online chatting is bad if you’re married, and in this article I’d like to talk about how that’s not always the case… Just usually.

And hey, if nothing else you can scroll down for a couple tips on how you can catch him IF he’s cheating.

Online Chatting is an Obvious Sign of Cheating, But When is it Okay?

We’ve all probably done some online chatting at one point or another.

I’ll be the first to admit that when the Instant Messaging platforms such as Yahoo Messenger, Trillian, AIM, etc. first came out I definitely spent hours chatting away with lots of folks that I’d never met before in my life.

And that was all before Facebook, Myspace, Twitter and other social media sites started popping up, making it even easier to find and talk to random people, which is both good and bad.

As an example. for the new mom dealing with post-partum depression, an online chat room can be extremely helpful in coping with the new stresses of motherhood.

Another example – For a man newly diagnosed with ADD, chatting with fellow men in similar situations can be both encouraging and therapeutic.

So, what I’m saying is that online chatting isn’t necessarily bad. Not by itself.

When is Online Chatting NOT Allowed in a Marriage?

What makes it bad is when your husband is going BEHIND YOUR BACK and talking to other women (or men) online with the intention of establishing a romantic relationship. It may just be a ‘virtual’ romantic relationship, but it’s still romantic, and it’s still against your marriage vows.

But, I’m guessing that much is obvious to you… But unfortunately it’s not always that obvious in real life.

For example, when you’re dealing with sites like Facebook it COULD be that your husband is just talking to a close friend, or someone he knows from work.

Is it annoying that he’s talking to a female friend? Yes.

Does it probably make you a bit jealous? Yes.

Does the fact that he’s talking to another woman online mean that he’s for sure cheating?

No.

So How Do You Know Your Husband is Having an Online Affair?

This is where things start to get tricky, so the best I can do is offer you my advice.

One thing that you can look at to tell the difference between a platonic friendship and a romantic ‘friendship’ is by the amount of EXTRA time your husband spends talking to this woman.

We all have our ‘Internet routines’, and if you notice that your husband’s suddenly includes an extra hour of unknown activity, he could be deliberately hiding something from you. My suggestions are to see if you can find any traces of online chatting.

Here are a few tips:

• Obviously your Internet History will be a good place to start. Just Google it if you don’t know how to check this.
• Check his Facebook wall to see if anyone has left any slightly inappropriate or a-little-too-friendly messages.
• Check his email (if you can) to make sure it’s just business and social communication
• Keep an eye on your bank statements – If your husband signed up to an online dating site then the payments will be discreet, but still there.

Of course, these are just tips, and they’re not guaranteed to work for you. I understand that you’ve still got some questions, and I want YOU to understand that you’re perfectly normal for having them.

Don’t stress out, don’t worry, and most importantly don’t rush anything. (Genevive C. Dougherty)

Are you thinking about dating a woman from another culture? Are you already dating a woman from another culture? Are you looking for answers on how you can go about this? Keep reading, and I’ll tell you exactly what you need to be aware of when dating women from other cultures.

Respect and communication are extremely important. It’s important to have respect for her culture. If you don’t have respect for her culture, you might as well walk away right now. You’ll expect her to have respect for your culture and the way you were raised, so you need to be the same way toward her.

Communication is important because there are many differences in cultures, and you need to make sure you fully understand what’s expected out of you in the relationship before you get to serious. In some cultures, once you’re dating, you’re expected to settle down and marry them. In others, it’s normal to be dating multiple people at the same time. If you don’t have a full understanding of these things, you may be in for some unhappy or embarrassing surprises down the road.

Keep in mind that although some cultures are very open to dating outside of their culture, some are not. Be prepared to be met with some adversary here from her family and friends. You may find that her family is extremely upset about her decision to date you, and they may even tell her that she is not allowed to date you. Even though this may be difficult for you, it’s important to be respectful of her family’s wishes. This will prove to them that you are good, and they may eventually change their minds.

Another thing to be mindful of is that there are differences in the way masculinity and femininity are displayed. Some things are the same or very similar across all cultures, but there are some things that are different. For example, in some cultures, yelling and outward displays of anger by a man are not considered to be masculine. But in others, these outbursts are considered to be normal, and are accepted to be very masculine.

When dating women from other cultures, you should also remember that humor and the way people communicate can be different. This could potentially cause problems, as you make a joke meant to be lighthearted that she takes as offensive. Be careful with this, because this will not move your relationship in a direction that you want.

All this being said, dating women from other cultures can be a lot of fun, and can allow you to learn about other cultures, and to experience things that you wouldn’t if you only date women from your own culture. Don’t be afraid to go out there and meet women from other cultures, and if you really hit it off, go ahead and date them. If you follow the simple rules of communication and respect while keeping these other things in mind, you’ll have no problem with dating women from other cultures. (Audrey G. Wright)

Sex is important, everybody knows. With a happy sex life you can expect to live longer, steer clear of heart problems, keep stress away, burn calories, boost your self-esteem, and lower prostate cancer risk. But it may be surprising for you to know that quite a few habits of yours can eventually get the better of your sex life. So before it’s too late to reverse a disappointing love life, be aware of the 5 nasty habits that might kill all the fun in bed.

Pornography addiction
Pornography has existed for many centuries but never has it made a bigger impact in our lives than in the past few decades, especially after the information technology boom. Author of Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships Marnia Robinson observes that porn-induced impotence is fast emerging as a disturbing trend among modern men. Porn addicts can be found wanting for libido and erection stiffness in moments of real intimacy. Men who remain glued to internet pornography have reduced response to normal sexual stimulation, which makes it difficult to get or maintain an erection at the time of sex. To shift the balance, pay more attention to your partner than the sexualized images and videos available online.

Nicotine addiction
Told and retold millions of times, smoking is a habit that kills you in every way imaginable. It is considered to be a high risk factor for erectile dysfunction as well. Cigarettes contain a large number of harmful chemicals that can damage the blood vessels in the body, including those carrying blood to the penis. Nicotine can cause severe vasospasm – a condition marked by arterial contraction – leading to insufficient blood flow to the penis. Quit smoking today to say yes to a healthy sex life.

Social networking addiction
Believe it or not, social networking is another form of addiction that’s slowly making many of us oblivious to the real issues at hand. People who spend too much time on Facebook or Twitter are devoid of ‘real life’ friends. Their failure to connect meaningfully to real people drives them to the virtual world where they can seek companionship. But for many people, virtual companionship fuels the expectations of a casual fling, leading to a host of complicacies in life. When an online relationship turns sour, the victim needs people to turn to for advice outside the realm of social networking. To that end, make social networking a part of your life; not the other way round.

Television addiction
The television is one of the greatest inventions of all time; we are sop obsessed with watching TV we let it soak up hours of our time, which could be better spent being sociable and active. We know and love the telly as a source of pleasure and entertainment but its magnetic persona can sadly push you and your partner away from each other without you even realising. Whether you are shouting for your favourite Premier League club or weeping at a weekly soap opera, too much telly makes it difficult for both of you and your partner to pick up on underlying relationship issues that may later spread to cause serious long-term problems.

Overcoming modern lifestyle addictions
One factor that all the above mentioned activities share is they can begin to dominate people’s lives. For people who are on the verge of developing an addiction, including the aforementioned three habits, a lifestyle change may be in order. Get plenty of sleep, stick to a healthy diet and communicate offline more with other people, especially your partner. Such subtle adjustments can make a world of difference.

Sam R. Davidson is an experienced writer and editor working with http://www.121doc.co.uk, specialising in different health and lifestyle conditions, including obesity, baldness, contraception, influenza, male and female sexual dysfunction, high blood pressure, and sexually transmitted diseases. (Sam R. Davidson)